“Give more love to many, don’t save it for one.” -Tessa Gould
Sometimes I cry because there’s so many people I want to help but can’t. Sometimes I cry because I’m overwhelmed with life and I’ve forgotten to slow down and breathe. Sometimes I cry because my favorite chocolate bar is sold out at Sprouts (Lily’s Sea Salt 70% Dark Chocolate-it’s vegan and quite possibly one of the closest things to heaven I’ll ever find on this earth). And sometimes the reasons I cry are so painful and my heart hurts so bad it literally feels like I’m bleeding to death. We’ve all been there.
Showing emotion can be scary. Showing emotion can be hard. But emotions are instinctive; they help us survive. The pain we feel matters. The pain of those around us matters. We need to be able to relate enough to the humans we surround ourselves with that when they hurt, we notice, and we feel it.
There can be no true connection to another human without knowing emotion. There can be no unconditional love without knowing emotion. There can be no healing without knowing emotion; and the most important emotion is love. Love is life changing in an infinite amount of ways.
I think one of the worst things to experience is knowing someone you love is hurting and literally nothing you do will fix it. And it is in these moments that we must decide how we’re going to respond. I disagree with the belief that showing emotion is weak. I disagree that we should hide how we’re actually feeling. I disagree that never crying shows how strong you are. I believe that if we surrender to the hurt we are feeling in these moments, that we are living the way humans were intended to exist: in love.
“We are not put on this earth to see through one another, but to see one another through.” -unknown. There are no words that can “fix it” when someone loses a mother. Literally. No. Words. But there is connection. There is space we can open within ourselves to hold them in love. It is only when we hold them in love, that we can help see them through.
Rest in Peace, Tam & Deidra. Thank you for being the best guardian angels to my friends.